Husband has alway been telling me not to sell myself short. He is my rock, shield and support.
I have always been slightly self-conscious.
Okay, I have always been really self-conscious.
I can have a 100% pleasant conversation with someone, and immediately feel I acted “a fool.” Perhaps this is because I constantly look for traits I admire about others instead of looking for those traits within myself.
Every single time I think about doing something significant, I have that deep inhale coupled with the exhale of “What am I thinking? Of course I’m not good enough.”
Advice is like having a constant friend.
When I say constant, I mean it sticks around even if we ignore it or treat it poorly. Like that friend who is always right in the most frustrating sense.
Husband is blessed (deservingly) with the utmost confidence in himself and ability, especially when it comes to business. Every single time he has an opportunity to better himself, he takes it no matter the potential outcomes.
Some of my favorite mantras:
You never know until you try.
Never say never.
and, my favorite:
The worst they can say is “no.”
Since I graduated college, I have had so many opportunities come my way.
Why did I overlook them?
Because I have a nasty habit of immediately assuming I am not worth most opportunities. Because I’m terrified of the word “NO.”
Even if I know i will not get the opportunity, there is still benefit to trying. For example, getting an interview for a position you’re a little under-qualified for can open a different network through the people leading interview.
I cannot let the word “NO” define my life or career.
Training myself to think more confidently means addressing my self-consciousness and getting over my weaknesses.
Listening to advice is easy.
Taking advice, on the other hand, is like taking a spoonful of medicine: you know it will be tart and horrific but can cure you in the end. From personal experience, I can tell you the medicine is worth it. All you have to do is take it once to overcome your aggressive fears. Thank you, Husband for being so patient and wonderful.
That is my weekend wisdom.
Thank you for reading. 🙂